What does your being need?
Personal Ceremony
This is a process of deep holding and self-permissions. It’s about feeling warmth, love, witnessing constrictions and pains in oneself, allowing life energy flow, surrender, empowerment, of feeling the feelings, of being with, of having support and space to go through the shifts, all for you.
Traditionally Closing the Bones ceremony is for women who gave birth, to provide support to the physical body that did so much to bring new life and also to care for the spirit of the woman and who she is now, while acknowledging and deeply honouring and mourning that she is no longer the woman she was before the child. This can be done soon after the childbirth or even 20 years after.
Closing Ritual is also a powerful ceremony for other major and significant-in-your-own-way transitions: deaths, births, major moves from one phase of life into another, from one version of self into another, leaving something big behind, letting go of what is no more and meeting the new self, a celebration and blessing of self now. It’s also about calling back and welcoming in parts of the soul that have been left behind, lost, forgotten, hidden. It’s about wholeness, completion, boundaries and inner freedom.
Are you going through a transition or have gone through a transition and feel incomplete, or feeling broken and stuck and depleted and wanting to go through a transition? Are you missing some parts of yourself or want to get to know more of yourself? Or do you possibly have no idea how you are feeling.
Do you need experience of care and safety?
Are you longing to release what you’ve been carrying and unsure or scared of what and how? What processing needs to happen in you and for you so more life energy flows? What chapters need to close and versions of self die? Have you been in a role for so long that all outside of that feels like a big new territory? Do you want to celebrate and acknowledge as how far you’ve come?
Are you always the caregiver? Are you ready to step into new experiences, into unknown with more trust, clarity, certainty, easy, power..? Do you need to experience acceptance? Are you ready to explore your own self a bit more or a lot more? Is there a lot of not-knowing living in you? Are there emotions and experiences that are suffocating you? Is there something that needs to be liberated in you? Something that needs to be reclaimed within you?
You are welcome here.
We will go as deep or as slow and layered as you need & want & have capacity for. I will be your guide, with a structure for more resource, spaciousness, safety, being as you are, rediscovering self.
Ceremony will be shaped based on your needs and soul’s guidance. It’s a day of weaving the strands of life, for your benefit.
For some, it will be a lot of about nurturing of the inner child, for some about shedding the layers, personal and ancestral, and for some celebrating the growing and becoming, or a variation… And it’s not about the process of others at all. It is about you receiving. It’s about nurturing, closing, acknowledging, holding, shining, expanding, liberating, loving the parts of you.
Possible parts of the ceremony: herbal steam, family constellation, systemic ritual, cacao making, fire ritual, Rebozo massage, intuitive expression through paint/ voice/ movement, herb mandala, designing path forward, Limpia (cleansing bath), personal sauna, body and stomach massage, intuitive body work, drumming or other sound aid, Rebozo swaddling.
To speak to the ‘stages’ of a full day ceremony: there’s meeting, connecting, establishing trust with the body, cleansing, layer work, parts work, looking at and setting pieces of the path forward, space for family system healing, ‘death’, ‘rebirth’, reunion with self. And the inner processes will be unique to each person.
While we do work with the essences of medicinal herbs, this is not an offering of a plant ceremony.
This may take place at my location and I offer travel appointments as well.
Welcoming - cacao and conversation
Arriving and settling in.
Cacao is a beautiful resource for heart opening. We may make cacao together or I may have it ready ahead of time; made especially for you, with ingredients that would be of assistance to your system (all natural, herbs, berries, fruits, spices, chocolate, cacao). I can share some information about different properties of the ingredients.
Rebozo Massage
This is about connection with your body. Saying “hello and I’m here to take care of you”. Attuning to the boundaries of the physical body. Exploring where the surrender and relaxation are welcomed. And where the constrictions live in the body. Coming into the body from the mind. Being held.
Using long Rebozo shawl, we will work with one section of the body at a time. The movement may be a gentle lift and hold, it may be a swaying motion, or it may be a bit of stretch, or a wider range motion.
I will listen to the body and to you and your input.
Family Field Healing (Family & Systems Constellations and Ritual)
We will look at your intention and at the elements affecting you from a larger system perspective. Constellations modality gives a way to look at the energy flow (or interruptions and constrictions) and to reveal unconscious dynamics that want to be seen and given space so then more love can flow.
Focus is on you and your experience of your life. We will work with the felt sense in the body, with the energy and information in your ‘family field’. This is very experiential and no special prep needed.
Path of Life
This is a combination of conversation and ritual to express the unexpressed, the suppressed, to give space to naming what is important and what is wanted, releasing baggage and setting a course, raising the sail and exploring the needed grounding…
This is primarily conversation based (vs Constellations), while still tapping into the emotions stored in the body and engaging both sides of the brain.
Full Body Massage
A full body massage, to relax, to enjoy, to build trust with yourself, to spend time with different parts of yourself, to be taken care of, to be tended to. This is also space to share more about your intention and need(s).
This is part gentle body massage and part intuitive body work, attuning to the body and giving space for the body to ‘speak’; focus is on making the body feel cared for, feel warmth. We are not going to be seeking to work out all the knots and sore muscles but if there are tender parts that want extra attention, we may do that too.
Herbal Bath - Limpia
This is a cleansing ceremony.
You will get to pick herbs and flowers that you feel will be supportive for you.
We will work with the plants and then add them to the water in a bath. I will share the process with you and I can be there for this part of the ceremony or you may take this time alone.
Rebozo swaddling - Closing Ritual
Swaddling of the body is about many things.
This process isn’t really something I can describe.
On the internal level, every person’s process will be unique for themselves, depending on what they are leaving behind, what chapter they are closing, what pieces of themself or their soul they are reconnecting with, and who they are and what they welcome in now.
On the physical level it’s about the body feeling safely held, feeling protected, feeling cared for, a safe boundary to surrender into, feeling a boundary of your physical body that 100% belongs to you, and it is about you having choice.
I am not going to define it for you as it’s not about your mind knowing and having a story and expectation. It is all about you and your needs, your processes and your life to that moment, in that moment, and forward.
This process is all about you, how much you allow yourself to feel, to receive, to ask for what you need and want, to be with what’s coming up, all while having support.